Relationship Coaching

Whether you are ready to jump into full on polyamory, you feel like your partner is dragging you into it, or somewhere in between, my goal is to help you figure out the type of relationship that works for YOU. I will teach you to better communicate, guide you in setting relationship goals, and help you process feelings of jealousy and insecurity to make this bumpy journey as smooth as possible. Through study and extensive online training (by the Gottman Institute, Esther Perel, Dr. Zhana and others) I've honed a methodology designed to help you cultivate the relationships you desire, whether they be non-monogamous or not. Learn more about my method, read my client’s testimonies and set up a free, noncommittal 30 min exploratory call below.

THE PROCESS

EXPLORATORY CALL

The first step is a complimentary call to get to know each other and determine if there's a good fit for working together.

SELF-DISCOVERY PHASE

If we decide to work together, the first step is not only for me to get to know you, but also for you to get to know yourself. Your individual background and personality traits will help us determine what your relationship needs are. If you are working as a couple, we’ll also get to understand your current relationship dynamics, communication patterns, and areas of improvement.

GOAL
SETTING

Based on what we’ll learn in the self-discovery phase, we’ll set clear and achievable goals that you want to work towards during the coaching process. This ensures that everyone is invested in the coaching journey and aligned in their aspirations for the relationship.

SUPPORT AND ACCOUNTABILITY

Throughout the coaching process, you’ll receive ongoing support and accountability to help you stay motivated and focused on your relationship goals. Depending on your needs, this might involve educational resources on opening up (how to deal with jealousy, how to set boundaries, etc.) or exercises to improve your communication skills.

TESTIMONIALS

TESTIMONIALS

  • When we came to Fernanda, we had been struggling to find our way alone through the triggers, conflicts and emotions that can arise when practicing non monogamy. We felt we needed some guidance around how to set boundaries, communicate, and be open in a way that strengthened our relationship. Fer has given us that and so much more. She has helped us better understand how our individual personalities and past experiences shape our desires now. She has made us both feel seen and heard while offering expert insight into the dynamics that hold us back and ways we can work to grow past them. Knowing that she has both studied and practiced non monogamy herself, we feel especially comfortable discussing and exploring with her the relationship model that works best for us. Our relationship is so much stronger thanks to her, and even when we still struggle, it is such a comfort knowing she is there to help us.

  • Fer is an incredible relationship coach. We first discovered her through her amazing podcast “Polycurious”, which we binged over a very short period of time to find some guidance on how to open up our relationship gently. She has a lot of experience in the world of ENM and this comes through so clearly in the way that she navigates and guides us through the early stages of opening up our relationship. We also love that she offers individual sessions, which we will be starting this month, in addition to our regular couple sessions. Highly recommended!

  • Fernanda has helped me navigate multiple relationships, from my primary partner to my metamour to my mother. It’s been invaluable to have the perspective of someone with a lot of experience in non-monogamy as I explore my relationship with my partner and his partner. She has guided me in setting practical boundaries about things that didn’t even cross my mind. She gives me tips for approaching hard conversations, like talking to my family about my non-monogamous relationship. When I start spiraling, she reminds me to focus on the present and to trust myself. She keeps me anchored!

  • Early on in opening our relationship, my husband and I bumped up against some challenging moments navigating new waters. We were energized to connect with Fernanda and dive into her coaching sessions where we were afforded insight into what was below the surface. She compassionately listened and guided us toward actionable steps that ultimately supported our growth as individuals and as a couple exploring this new dynamic. Her knowledge of polyamory and open relationships helped us put tools in our tool-belt as we were more equipped to ask ourselves and each other important questions while also becoming more clearly able to identify our needs in communication, desires, and boundaries in our marriage and in dynamics with new partners. While it’s a work in process and a daily commitment to learning and unlearning, we are so grateful for the time and investment in Fernanda’s coaching!

  • My husband and I have been seeing Fer for almost a year now and it has been life changing. We were in a rough spot and were struggling in communicating each other’s needs properly. After seeing Fer we have learned so many tools to create a healthier environment for us both. She taught us how to communicate and more importantly how to show acknowledgment, appreciation, and understanding. We are both extremely grateful for Fer’s help and hope to continually have sessions with her in the future.

FAQs

Do you do individual or couple’s/ group sessions?

Both! If you are in a primary relationship, my preference is to meet with both of you but we’ll also have individual sessions at times.

How do you conduct your sessions?

Through Zoom. Open to in person if we have the opportunity.

How often will we meet?

I usually start by meeting once a week, the move on to biweekly, monthly and hopefully you’ll eventually feel so good you won’t need me anymore!

How long are the sessions?

75 minutes

How is coaching different from therapy?

I am not a trained therapist but I am pretty good at asking questions and giving non judgmental advice. We will set goals together and I will help you stay accountable, although those goals are likely going to change!

Do you do coaching in Spanish?

Sí!

What’s the cost?

My pricing changes depending on several factors but I wouldn’t want finances to be the reason why you can’t see me. Let’s chat through it!

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